Friday, February 25, 2011

Land of Inbetween

I have been emotionally tied... Exhausted this week. There is no physical reason...... But this morning in my quit time , the spirit whispered remember last year... at this very time last year I was in battle! A spiritual battle to bring Eden home! There were pleople involved that didn't want us to bring her home. I was even told at one point that " if they couldn't find any one else then they knew we were there for her" But god prevailed and we brought our daughter home , we had our adoptions happen in the past year, we went from being foster parents to being able to only adopt as we now have to many little ones to foster, we have delt with so many medical issues and diagnoses, and we havent stopped .... I think that I am finally allowing myself to rest...... And through all of this feel like our family has been in the land of in between for awhile now.
Reading a blog I follow this this morning I came across this , and it is the perfect picture of where our family has been this past year.. It is reassuring that even in the in-between God is incontrol !

There's a place between here and there.  A piece of ground in the middle of take-off and landing.  A section of the unknown within beginning and ending.  You probably find yourself there from time to time.  It's the land known as Inbetween.

Inbetween is one of the most rugged places in life.  You aren't fully here, and you aren't fully there.  Your emotions and hopes are strewn across an endless list of possibilities.  Door knobs of wood, brass, and silver line the path, but which will open?  In the land of Inbetween, the paths are lined with sealed envelopes and foggy dreams.  Excitement runs forward and fears hold back.  And if you stay long enough, you feel the tremors of  your soul.

The land of Inbetween is downright scary.  It's a place of blind trust.  It's where the pedals of faith meet the narrow road of fortitude and where movement is demanded though there's no place to go.  The worst part of this land isn't the uncertainty or frustration that accompany it - it's that God likes it when you're there.

While He's no sadist, God loves the land of Inbetween.  He loves what it does to us.  He loves the humility and dependence it creates in our hearts, so He creates innumerable forks in life's road that swerve us into the land of Inbetween.  The unknowns of job, marriage, children, and home are the signs of this uncertain land.  At times, people are thrust into Inbetween by mishaps, accidents, sudden deaths, and even unexpected fortune.  Some people visit so many times they begin to wonder if it's life.  And they aren't far off.

So what will hold you steady when you walk through the terrain of Inbetween?  A recognition that Inbetween is God's design.  In one miraculous moment, the Creator of the universe placed you in the greatest Inbetween of all time - the place between the earthly creation and eternity.  Life's smaller lunges forward and backward are merely postcard reminders that there's something greater than this place we're visiting.

If you're in your own land of Inbetween, remember that God was the original designer of this journey.  You can get mad, scream, and even pout if you want. But it doesn't change the fact that you're merely passing through.  Everything else is Inbetween.  (from Deeper Walk, a Relevant Devotional Series, thank you SIT A SPELL for sharing this:) )

Thursday, February 24, 2011

Me 101

1.The control freak in me has to take care of the books even if I say I don't want to.

2.  I only read the US news if I have to.  I always feel like if there is something I really need to know- I will see it on Facebook.

3.I don't really like to talk on the phone.  I prefer texting.  I'm funnier in print- and awkward in person.  Perhaps that's why I like to text.

4.I like bread, all. Kinds of bread.... And can eat a whole loaf if it is good bread!

5.I am notorious for screwing up song lyrics. 

6.I really want another child/ children. Right between Selah and Zion.

7.I find myself listening to kids bop in the car even when the kids aren't with me.  Same goes with iCarly on TV long after the kids have left the room.

8.I like watching the housewives  My husband will be mortified that I just shared that.

9.I could eat crab until I got's not a pretty sight.

10.I' hate that I am getting older. But the inner me still sees her self as an insecure 18year old.

11.I'm on the computer too much too have 6 kids

12.I love wearing dresses!

13.We don't have a tv in our room and i Love it.

14.I hate doing dishes and Richard let's me get away with not doing them.

15.I want to go to collage! But it scares me to death!

16.Some times I eat just to eat.

17.If I were to go to my dream vacation destinations, I would tour Europe with my family , go to an all inclusive resort in Fiji .

18.I say damit when I'm really mad.

19. I hate homework!

20. I secretly love my stretch marks!zz

21. I am a huge fan of P.D.A.

22.I can burp on demand.

23. I am to lazy to ever get divorced......... NOT THAT RICHARD AND I EVER WOULD!!!! I LOVE HIM MORE EVERY DAY!

24.My favorite vegetable is Asparigas

25.My current celebrity crush is Anderson Cooper.  He could tell me the news any day.

26.I love pickled eggs.

27.I have a collection of hello kitty!

28.I hate decorating for holidays

29.My favorite age of kids is age 4.  Old enough to be a little independent but still young enough to be sweet and innocent. 

30.I cry at commercials .

31.I don't remember what my life was like with out kids........ And that is a good thing.

32. Really don't like my birthday, it is never right....... But thank you Richard for never stop trying

33. I saved the pants that I was wearing when I met Richard.

34. I love show tunes.

35.  I have always wanted to live in Haiti and work with orphans.

36. I love shoes...but hate to wear them and only do if I have to! An then they have to nice really nice!

37. chocolate..... need I say more?!?!

38.  I like hospital and airline food.

39.  I consider my home and children a mission field unto it self.

40.  I wish that I knew how to dance.  I love to dance, but I am so bad at it and look so awkward doing it. 

41.  I don't like cold makes me hurt all over
42.  I love reading childrens books....I started collecting them before I had kids.

43. I'm not a fan of popcorn. It gets stuck in my teeth. 

44. I love coupons!

45. My favorite pet is my rat, Cashmere .

46. I love my tv and keep in on for background noise.

47. I love being part of my foster parent association! It makes me feel like I have an in.

48. I really want a pool!

49. I like to spend time with my the expense of housework!
50. After 11 years of marriage , Richard still surprises me all the time......and I love him more and more for it!

Wednesday, February 23, 2011

Yesterday was nuts!

Tuesday is my day off the day I get to go and not worry about anything ( thank aunt Stephanie) well yesterday was nuts! I had to have the neighbor jump the van . Then went to the library and couldn't get It to start again :( so I asked the lady parked next to me to give me jump please! Well that didn't work but I did make a nw friend . Liz is a pediatric hospic nurse.... And I thought my job was hard! She works with mainly kids with cancer and there families , we talked about our lives and kids and . She lives on a farm about 5 min. From me and she knew the people that lived in our house before we did. ( and who I still get mail for... 7 years later) So where will this new friendship lead who knows... I can tell you this it was God who who made it happen. After about an hour she had to leave to go to work, I called mom to come get me and we tried to jump the van again and first time it started up! So that was my yesterday :)
Thanks again Mom!

Monday, February 21, 2011

Just playing

When I’m building in the block room, please don’t say I’m “Just Playing.”
For you see, I’m learning as I play about balances and shapes.
Who knows, I may be an architect some day.
When I’m getting all dressed up; setting the table, caring for the babies,
Don’t get the idea I’m “Just Playing.”
For, you see, I’m learning as I play;
I may be a mother or father some day.
When you see me sitting in a chair, reading to an imaginary audience.
Please don’t laugh and think I’m “Just Playing.”
For, you see, I’m learning as I play;
I may be a teacher someday.
When you see me combing the bushes for bugs,
Or packing my pockets with choice things I find; don’t pass it off as “Just Play.”
For, you see, I’m learning as I play:
I may be a scientist someday.
When you see me engrossed in a puzzle or some “plaything” at my school,
Please don’t feel the time is wasted.
For, you see, I’m learning as I play. I’m learning to solve problems and concentrate.
I may be in business some day.
When you see me cooking or tasting foods,
Please don’t think that because I enjoy it, it is “Just Play.”
I’m learning to follow directions and see differences.
I may be a cook someday.
When you see me learning to skip, hop, run and move my body;
Please don’t say I’m “Just Playing.”
For, you see, I’m learning as I play; I’m learning how my body works.
I may be a doctor, nurse or athlete someday.
When you asked me, what I’ve done at school today,
And I say “I just played”; please don’t misunderstand me.
For, you see, I’m learning as I play.
I’m learning to enjoy and be successful in my work;
I’m preparing for tomorrow.
Today, I am a child and my work is play.
Hope you enjoyed the poem, and for you adults too…………..take some time to “Just Play” today!

Children are Miraculous!

How To: Really Love a Child (poem) by SARK

How to Really Love a Child *

Be there.

Say yes as often as possible.

Let them bang on pots and pans.

If they’re crabby, put them in water.

If they’re unlovable, love yourself.

Realize how important it is to be a child.

Go to a movie theater in your pajamas.

Read books out loud with joy.

Invent pleasures together.

Remember how really small they are.

Giggle a lot.

Surprise them.

Say no when necessary.

Teach feelings.

Heal your own inner child.

Learn about parenting.

Hug trees together.

Make loving safe.

Bake a cake and eat it with no hands.

Go find elephants and kiss them.

Plan to build a rocket ship.

Imagine yourself magic.

Make lots of forts with blankets.

Let your angel fly.

Reveal your own dreams.

Search out the positive.

Keep the gleam in your eye.

Encourage silly.

Plant licorice in your garden.

Open up.

Stop yelling.

Express your love.

A lot.

Speak kindly.

Paint their tennis shoes.

Handle with caring.

*Copyrighted to SARK

p.s.  If you like this poem, you might like Just Playing by Anita Wadley (for parents of young children).

Sunday, February 20, 2011

2 good days!

Zion has had 2 good days!
He has woken up pleasant ( no ear piercing screeching at 5 am)
His tantrums have been under 4min. Long ( not like the way he tends to escalate and tantrum up to 45min)
He napped for an hour and did well at church!
This weekend Zion was my Happy boy!

( Keep up the prayers we feel them!)

Saturday, February 19, 2011

The world is right again :)

So I woke early and came out on the couch, to sleep...
While there I had a dream .
I was living in a beach house, all the furniture was pale or white , there was no laundry to be done, no dishes in the sink and it was Silent...
Then I woke up.
Was I rested and peaceful...
No not me I was in a panic attack ...heart racing , sweating...
and then I realized that Faith was next to me on the couch and I had been peeded on ...
And every thing was right with the world again!! Now to go do the laundry!!

Wednesday, February 16, 2011

where to start?!?!?!

DISCLAIMER : To friends and Family that I have not shared this info. with I am sorry! We really haven't shared with many and it is really hard and I am still really raw.

There is so much and nothing going on! We are in a holding pattern here at home. We are all just waiting for March 2nd to get here.

Let me back up..... About a month ago we took Zion to his 2-year check up. ( things have been increasingly difficult with him....and he is back to getting up every few hr's @night) So we went through his check up, went over his delays and then had to answer the dreaded Autism questions..... Well he didn't do so well , He actually failed 75% of them and out of the 6 critical he failed 3 ( the Dr. gave him 2 other, as I said he sort of does that)
So what does this mean... Who knows... The Dr. thinks he is defiantly on the spectrum and might also have ODD... We are having him Evaluated by Early intervention on March 2nd. We and the Dr. would like to se him in a Developmental / Special needs Preschool. Along with therapy and we will probably need some wraparound services. He also needs to see the neurologist and Developmental ped.
So that is that.....
I haven't been blogging Because frankly I have been hiding. I have been Angry... and Yes i can admit I was angry with God. When we singed up to be foster parents there are about 300 different things that you are wiling to take or not take in children that they might place.... there were2 BIG ones that I just wasn't comfortable with... 1 . A child who acts out sexually and Autistic. Really we couldn't take a child in a wheelchair due to all the steps in the house but I digress... Well God gave me a placement of a Little Girl who acted out sexually so I don't know why this was a surprise . I just don't understand Autism! But I am Learning. I just had to get over myself...and get right with God again.
You see Zion was a promise from God and I'm ready to take on all that that entails!
So what else is new you ask...... This is the Rogers Clan there can't only be one thing at a time.. I am now having weekly visits with Chandler ( Eden's Bio. Brother) and guess what , Thats right , He's Autistic... and a wonderful boy!!! He is living in a residential school about 45min from me and I look forward to our visit... He seemed to recognize me at our last visit:)
And to top it all off we just had our Home-study updated ( just to be obedient to God ...But that is a whole other be continued)
,....And I am still on the path to becoming a surrogate... you can read about that later on my other blog.