How To: Really Love a Child (poem) by SARK
How to Really Love a Child *
Be there.
Say yes as often as possible.
Let them bang on pots and pans.
If they’re crabby, put them in water.
If they’re unlovable, love yourself.
Realize how important it is to be a child.
Go to a movie theater in your pajamas.
Read books out loud with joy.
Invent pleasures together.
Remember how really small they are.
Giggle a lot.
Surprise them.
Say no when necessary.
Teach feelings.
Heal your own inner child.
Learn about parenting.
Hug trees together.
Make loving safe.
Bake a cake and eat it with no hands.
Go find elephants and kiss them.
Plan to build a rocket ship.
Imagine yourself magic.
Make lots of forts with blankets.
Let your angel fly.
Reveal your own dreams.
Search out the positive.
Keep the gleam in your eye.
Encourage silly.
Plant licorice in your garden.
Open up.
Stop yelling.
Express your love.
A lot.
Speak kindly.
Paint their tennis shoes.
Handle with caring.
*Copyrighted to SARK
p.s. If you like this poem, you might like Just Playing by Anita Wadley (for parents of young children).
Monday, February 21, 2011
Sunday, February 20, 2011
2 good days!
Zion has had 2 good days!
He has woken up pleasant ( no ear piercing screeching at 5 am)
His tantrums have been under 4min. Long ( not like the way he tends to escalate and tantrum up to 45min)
He napped for an hour and did well at church!
This weekend Zion was my Happy boy!
( Keep up the prayers we feel them!)
He has woken up pleasant ( no ear piercing screeching at 5 am)
His tantrums have been under 4min. Long ( not like the way he tends to escalate and tantrum up to 45min)
He napped for an hour and did well at church!
This weekend Zion was my Happy boy!
( Keep up the prayers we feel them!)
Saturday, February 19, 2011
The world is right again :)
So I woke early and came out on the couch, to sleep...
While there I had a dream .
I was living in a beach house, all the furniture was pale or white , there was no laundry to be done, no dishes in the sink and it was Silent...
Then I woke up.
Was I rested and peaceful...
No not me I was in a panic attack ...heart racing , sweating...
and then I realized that Faith was next to me on the couch and I had been peeded on ...
And every thing was right with the world again!! Now to go do the laundry!!
While there I had a dream .
I was living in a beach house, all the furniture was pale or white , there was no laundry to be done, no dishes in the sink and it was Silent...
Then I woke up.
Was I rested and peaceful...
No not me I was in a panic attack ...heart racing , sweating...
and then I realized that Faith was next to me on the couch and I had been peeded on ...
And every thing was right with the world again!! Now to go do the laundry!!
Wednesday, February 16, 2011
where to start?!?!?!
DISCLAIMER : To friends and Family that I have not shared this info. with I am sorry! We really haven't shared with many and it is really hard and I am still really raw.
There is so much and nothing going on! We are in a holding pattern here at home. We are all just waiting for March 2nd to get here.
Let me back up..... About a month ago we took Zion to his 2-year check up. ( things have been increasingly difficult with him....and he is back to getting up every few hr's @night) So we went through his check up, went over his delays and then had to answer the dreaded Autism questions..... Well he didn't do so well , He actually failed 75% of them and out of the 6 critical he failed 3 ( the Dr. gave him 2 other, as I said he sort of does that)
So what does this mean... Who knows... The Dr. thinks he is defiantly on the spectrum and might also have ODD... We are having him Evaluated by Early intervention on March 2nd. We and the Dr. would like to se him in a Developmental / Special needs Preschool. Along with therapy and we will probably need some wraparound services. He also needs to see the neurologist and Developmental ped.
So that is that.....
I haven't been blogging Because frankly I have been hiding. I have been Angry... and Yes i can admit I was angry with God. When we singed up to be foster parents there are about 300 different things that you are wiling to take or not take in children that they might place.... there were2 BIG ones that I just wasn't comfortable with... 1 . A child who acts out sexually and Autistic. Really we couldn't take a child in a wheelchair due to all the steps in the house but I digress... Well God gave me a placement of a Little Girl who acted out sexually so I don't know why this was a surprise . I just don't understand Autism! But I am Learning. I just had to get over myself...and get right with God again.
You see Zion was a promise from God and I'm ready to take on all that that entails!
So what else is new you ask...... This is the Rogers Clan there can't only be one thing at a time.. I am now having weekly visits with Chandler ( Eden's Bio. Brother) and guess what , Thats right , He's Autistic... and a wonderful boy!!! He is living in a residential school about 45min from me and I look forward to our visit... He seemed to recognize me at our last visit:)
And to top it all off we just had our Home-study updated ( just to be obedient to God ...But that is a whole other post..to be continued)
,....And I am still on the path to becoming a surrogate... you can read about that later on my other blog.
There is so much and nothing going on! We are in a holding pattern here at home. We are all just waiting for March 2nd to get here.
Let me back up..... About a month ago we took Zion to his 2-year check up. ( things have been increasingly difficult with him....and he is back to getting up every few hr's @night) So we went through his check up, went over his delays and then had to answer the dreaded Autism questions..... Well he didn't do so well , He actually failed 75% of them and out of the 6 critical he failed 3 ( the Dr. gave him 2 other, as I said he sort of does that)
So what does this mean... Who knows... The Dr. thinks he is defiantly on the spectrum and might also have ODD... We are having him Evaluated by Early intervention on March 2nd. We and the Dr. would like to se him in a Developmental / Special needs Preschool. Along with therapy and we will probably need some wraparound services. He also needs to see the neurologist and Developmental ped.
So that is that.....
I haven't been blogging Because frankly I have been hiding. I have been Angry... and Yes i can admit I was angry with God. When we singed up to be foster parents there are about 300 different things that you are wiling to take or not take in children that they might place.... there were2 BIG ones that I just wasn't comfortable with... 1 . A child who acts out sexually and Autistic. Really we couldn't take a child in a wheelchair due to all the steps in the house but I digress... Well God gave me a placement of a Little Girl who acted out sexually so I don't know why this was a surprise . I just don't understand Autism! But I am Learning. I just had to get over myself...and get right with God again.
You see Zion was a promise from God and I'm ready to take on all that that entails!
So what else is new you ask...... This is the Rogers Clan there can't only be one thing at a time.. I am now having weekly visits with Chandler ( Eden's Bio. Brother) and guess what , Thats right , He's Autistic... and a wonderful boy!!! He is living in a residential school about 45min from me and I look forward to our visit... He seemed to recognize me at our last visit:)
And to top it all off we just had our Home-study updated ( just to be obedient to God ...But that is a whole other post..to be continued)
,....And I am still on the path to becoming a surrogate... you can read about that later on my other blog.
Wednesday, January 19, 2011
Purex Insider
I have been chosen as a Purex insider, I will be writing reviews of there products..... and for all my followers , Keep an Eye out in the next few weeks for some great giveaways, here, from Purex!
Monday, January 17, 2011
Getting ready for tomorow.
So We were given permission to go and see E's brother.... Last week I spoke to the director of his school and was told that he has Autism.... He is verbal but you need to encourage him to speak and use his words. The director didn't say where on the spectrum. In stead we set up an appt. for tomorrow afternoon to meet with the director , the school social worker and the village ( that is the boarding part ) Supervisor to go over C's file. I am over joyed...and so is Richard. We are not sure yet in what capacity we may be a resource... but everyone deserves family!!!! and i can't wait to finally give C his Christmas presents:)
Wednesday, January 12, 2011
11 Step Program for those thinking of having kids
Lesson 1
1. Go to the grocery store.
2. Arrange to have your salary paid directly to their head office.
3. Go home.
4. Pick up the paper.
5. Read it for the last time.
Lesson 2
Before you finally go ahead and have children, find a couple who already are parents and berate them about their...
1. Methods of discipline.
2. Lack of patience.
3. Appallingly low tolerance levels.
4. Allowing their children to run wild.
5. Suggest ways in which they might improve their child's breastfeeding, sleep habits, toilet training, table manners, and overall behavior.
Enjoy it because it will be the last time in your life you will have all the answers.
Lesson 3
A really good way to discover how the nights might feel...
1. Get home from work and immediately begin walking around the living room from 5PM to 10PM carrying a wet bag weighing approximately 8-12 pounds, with a radio turned to static (or some other obnoxious sound) playing loudly. (Eat cold food with one hand for dinner)
2. At 10PM, put the bag gently down, set the alarm for midnight, and go to sleep.
3. Get up at 12 and walk around the living room again, with the bag, until 1AM.
4. Set the alarm for 3AM.
5. As you can't get back to sleep, get up at 2AM and make a drink and watch an infomercial.
6. Go to bed at 2:45AM.
7. Get up at 3AM when the alarm goes off.
8. Sing songs quietly in the dark until 4AM.
9. Get up. Make breakfast. Get ready for work and go to work (work hard and be productive)
Repeat steps 1-9 each night. Keep this up for 3-5 years. Look cheerful and together.
Lesson 4
Can you stand the mess children make? T o find out...
1. Smear peanut butter onto the sofa and jam onto the curtains.
2. Hide a piece of raw chicken behind the stereo and leave it there all summer.
3. Stick your fingers in the flower bed.
4. Then rub them on the clean walls.
5. Take your favorite book, photo album, etc. Wreck it.
6. Spill milk on your new pillows. Cover the stains with crayons. How does that look?
Lesson 5
Dressing small children is not as easy as it seems.
1. Buy an octopus and a small bag made out of loose mesh.
2. Attempt to put the octopus into the bag so that none of the arms hang out.
Time allowed for this - all morning.
Lesson 6
Forget the BMW and buy a mini-van. And don't think that you can leave it out in the driveway spotless and shining. Family cars don't look like that.
1. Buy a chocolate ice cream cone and put it in the glove compartment.
Leave it there.
2. Get a dime. Stick it in the CD player.
3. Take a family size package of chocolate cookies. Mash them into the back seat. Sprinkle cheerios all over the floor, then smash them with your foot.
4. Run a garden rake along both sides of the car.
Lesson 7
Go to the local grocery store. Take with you the closest thing you can find to a pre-school child. (A full-grown goat is an excellent choice). If you intend to have more than one child, then definitely take more than one goat. Buy your week's groceries without letting the goats out of your sight. Pay for everything the goat eats or destroys. Until you can easily accomplish this, do not even contemplate having children.
Lesson 8
1. Hollow out a melon.
2. Make a small hole in the side.
3. Suspend it from the ceiling and swing it from side to side.
4. Now get a bowl of soggy Cheerios and attempt to spoon them into the swaying melon by pretending to be an airplane.
5. Continue until half the Cheerios are gone.
6. Tip half into your lap. The other half, just throw up in the air.
You are now ready to feed a nine- month-old baby.
Lesson 9
Learn the names of every character from Sesame Street , Barney, Disney, the Teletubbies, and Pokemon. Watch nothing else on TV but PBS, the Disney channel or Noggin for at least five years. (I know, you're thinking What's 'Noggin'?) Exactly the point.
Lesson 10
Make a recording of Fran Drescher saying 'mommy' repeatedly. (Important: no more than a four second delay between each 'mommy'; occasional crescendo to the level of a supersonic jet is required). Play this tape in your car everywhere you go for the next four years. You are now ready to take a long trip with a toddler.
Lesson 11
Start talking to an adult of your choice. Have someone else continually tug on your skirt hem, shirt- sleeve, or elbow while playing the 'mommy' tape made from Lesson 10 above. You are now ready to have a conversation with an adult while there is a child in the room.
This is all very tongue in cheek; anyone who is parent will say 'it's all worth it!' Share it with your friends, both those who do and don't have kids. I guarantee they'll get a chuckle out of it. Remember, a sense of humor is one of the most important things you'll need when you become a parent!
by Amy Lawrence
1. Go to the grocery store.
2. Arrange to have your salary paid directly to their head office.
3. Go home.
4. Pick up the paper.
5. Read it for the last time.
Lesson 2
Before you finally go ahead and have children, find a couple who already are parents and berate them about their...
1. Methods of discipline.
2. Lack of patience.
3. Appallingly low tolerance levels.
4. Allowing their children to run wild.
5. Suggest ways in which they might improve their child's breastfeeding, sleep habits, toilet training, table manners, and overall behavior.
Enjoy it because it will be the last time in your life you will have all the answers.
Lesson 3
A really good way to discover how the nights might feel...
1. Get home from work and immediately begin walking around the living room from 5PM to 10PM carrying a wet bag weighing approximately 8-12 pounds, with a radio turned to static (or some other obnoxious sound) playing loudly. (Eat cold food with one hand for dinner)
2. At 10PM, put the bag gently down, set the alarm for midnight, and go to sleep.
3. Get up at 12 and walk around the living room again, with the bag, until 1AM.
4. Set the alarm for 3AM.
5. As you can't get back to sleep, get up at 2AM and make a drink and watch an infomercial.
6. Go to bed at 2:45AM.
7. Get up at 3AM when the alarm goes off.
8. Sing songs quietly in the dark until 4AM.
9. Get up. Make breakfast. Get ready for work and go to work (work hard and be productive)
Repeat steps 1-9 each night. Keep this up for 3-5 years. Look cheerful and together.
Lesson 4
Can you stand the mess children make? T o find out...
1. Smear peanut butter onto the sofa and jam onto the curtains.
2. Hide a piece of raw chicken behind the stereo and leave it there all summer.
3. Stick your fingers in the flower bed.
4. Then rub them on the clean walls.
5. Take your favorite book, photo album, etc. Wreck it.
6. Spill milk on your new pillows. Cover the stains with crayons. How does that look?
Lesson 5
Dressing small children is not as easy as it seems.
1. Buy an octopus and a small bag made out of loose mesh.
2. Attempt to put the octopus into the bag so that none of the arms hang out.
Time allowed for this - all morning.
Lesson 6
Forget the BMW and buy a mini-van. And don't think that you can leave it out in the driveway spotless and shining. Family cars don't look like that.
1. Buy a chocolate ice cream cone and put it in the glove compartment.
Leave it there.
2. Get a dime. Stick it in the CD player.
3. Take a family size package of chocolate cookies. Mash them into the back seat. Sprinkle cheerios all over the floor, then smash them with your foot.
4. Run a garden rake along both sides of the car.
Lesson 7
Go to the local grocery store. Take with you the closest thing you can find to a pre-school child. (A full-grown goat is an excellent choice). If you intend to have more than one child, then definitely take more than one goat. Buy your week's groceries without letting the goats out of your sight. Pay for everything the goat eats or destroys. Until you can easily accomplish this, do not even contemplate having children.
Lesson 8
1. Hollow out a melon.
2. Make a small hole in the side.
3. Suspend it from the ceiling and swing it from side to side.
4. Now get a bowl of soggy Cheerios and attempt to spoon them into the swaying melon by pretending to be an airplane.
5. Continue until half the Cheerios are gone.
6. Tip half into your lap. The other half, just throw up in the air.
You are now ready to feed a nine- month-old baby.
Lesson 9
Learn the names of every character from Sesame Street , Barney, Disney, the Teletubbies, and Pokemon. Watch nothing else on TV but PBS, the Disney channel or Noggin for at least five years. (I know, you're thinking What's 'Noggin'?) Exactly the point.
Lesson 10
Make a recording of Fran Drescher saying 'mommy' repeatedly. (Important: no more than a four second delay between each 'mommy'; occasional crescendo to the level of a supersonic jet is required). Play this tape in your car everywhere you go for the next four years. You are now ready to take a long trip with a toddler.
Lesson 11
Start talking to an adult of your choice. Have someone else continually tug on your skirt hem, shirt- sleeve, or elbow while playing the 'mommy' tape made from Lesson 10 above. You are now ready to have a conversation with an adult while there is a child in the room.
This is all very tongue in cheek; anyone who is parent will say 'it's all worth it!' Share it with your friends, both those who do and don't have kids. I guarantee they'll get a chuckle out of it. Remember, a sense of humor is one of the most important things you'll need when you become a parent!
by Amy Lawrence
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